Last night, in the safety of my exquisite mastermind group, I told the truth. There were tears and moments of silence when the words were stuck at the back of my throat but I allowed myself to get real about one of my biggest fears.

I admitted:

“I’m terrified to blog because I’m not excellent at it. I don’t want to write if it’s just going to be ‘ok’. I don’t want to do it if I’m not going to get it right.”

Excellence. I live it and breathe it. It inspires me, stretches me and guides me. But when it comes to my writing, excellence hurts.

I see this sweet, creative spirit within me— yearning for a voice, pushing to express, but I’ve set the bar so high she’s been too scared to make a move.

I’m changing that now. I’m making room for her.

 

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Here’s exactly where I’m going:

I’ve decided to write everyday for 30 days.  My mastermind sisters coined it 30 Days of Imperfection.

I want you to take a moment and check in with yourself.  Where are you attached to getting it right?  Where has that need for excellence knocked you off your feet or stalled out your business?

What would it look like if you committed to 30 days of imperfection?

Maybe it would allow you to find your own voice and connect with your right people in a deeper, more connected way.  Maybe it would look like finally launching your new website, your new program, your big scary idea.  Or walking the dog instead of running 5km everyday.

What I’m saying is that we could do this together.  No lone wolves on my watch, lovely.

As for me, I’ll be sharing my words (poems, short posts, creative writing–I have no idea!) on my blog because part of working through my fear is being transparent with all of you.  I’ll be writing about solopreneurship, being a woman, a mom, my feelings, my fears.

Here’s my first piece.  It’s my perspective  on how introverts and extroverts change the world:

some are drawn to the stage
in their element under the lights
knowing their very presence has impact

some prefer the elegance of the art itself
quietly moving through the world
making miracles happen

If you’d like to join me in 30 Days of Imperfection (because boy this kinda thing is hard to do on your own!) you can connect with me here on Facebook and share what you’ll be doing with your 30 days of Imperfection.  I would love to hear from you.

Here’s to love and gratitude and 30 Days of Imperfection.

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  1. I’ve been going through a very similar struggle and realized last night that I have lost my voice. My blog just doesn’t sound like me. It sounds like a buttoned up version that’s been stuck in a box. It’s cramped and uncomfortable. In trying to do everything right, I’ve stumbled into a pattern that just doesn’t fit. I’ve read hundreds and hundreds of posts about how to write blog posts that get attention and get comments. And I’ve followed that advice. In the corporate world, my ability to write like my boss served me very well. But part of why I left that world behind was to more fully express myself (and to figure out who she is)! My business is an expression of myself. But it’s time to find my voice again. Thank you, Jac, for sharing your story. It’s allowed me to see my own.

    1. Hi Erica! It’s a bit of a heart-breaker when we realize that–but the good thing is that it’s only temporary. You can make some space to write again, letting it be playful and fun. Write like nobody’s reading–isn’t that what they say!
      Hugs to you!
      xo
      Jac

  2. I love your post Jac! I too love to write, but, often keep it close to me like a “hidden secret” for many of the reasons you voiced, or push this activity aside and not give it priority space! Your authentic voice is inspiring… cheers to all our imperfections! I feel grateful you shared this!
    Shelley

    1. Hi Shelley!

      I hope you join me in sharing your words with your people–I love your sweet energy and know you’re writing will inspire others. I sure hope you join me!

      xxoo
      Jac

  3. Thank you Jac… for allowing others the opportunity to peer into the pages of the next chapter of your journey. Once again, your intuitive spirit, heart and strength gives courage to others to do the same. THIS is why I love you so much.
    Miss P xo

  4. I love this. I think a commitment to imperfection, to doing the work, to thinking through these ideas and making something — anything — is so important. I love your poem.

    I’m definitely an extrovert, but I’m currently exhausted from stretching myself too thin, and trying to be present in too many places every week. But I’m recognizing this, and writing about it, and even sharing some of it with the world!

    Be well. I look forward to seeing more from this exercise.

    xo

    1. Hello Leslie;

      I get it–that whole spreading ourselves too thin Thing is exhausting. It’s so important to set boundaries and processes that support our energy and allow us to do more of the work we love. Really delighted that you are also writing and sharing your experiences–just fabulous!
      Love,
      Jac

  5. Thanks Jac for being authentic. That is what I love about you. This post brought tears to my eyes and has had me thinking all morning about what I am prepared to do.

    1. Hello lovely Kathryn–
      I read once that it’s not about writing it’s about moving people. It really feels wonderful to know that my truth creates this response within you. I’m so delighted you shared this with me. I look forward to hearing what you’re committing to in our 30 Days of Imperfection. xox

  6. Oh Jac, this invitation is too good to resist. Your courage is awesomely inspiring — thank you for standing up and for starting this movement. I’m in! xoxo

    1. Sweet, sweet Amy. Your support is incredibly meaningful to me—I know how we’ve been like mirror images of each other with regard to so many issues and challenges when it comes to solopreneurship. Thank you for joining me on this. Yessssss!!!!

      Love
      Jac

  7. Jac- such a beautiful, moving, honest, heartfelt post- one filled with wisdom, courage, inspiration. I have to say I read the passage and I think that your “very presence has impact” and that you do have a knack for “making miracles happen.

    Thank you for sharing it with all of us. It was just what I needed to hear today- and I am going to give thought to what I will do during my 30 days of imperfection.

    HUGE hugs. xo

    1. Hello dear Beth–

      I love your words. It makes me so happy that this landed in the right place for you. I can’t wait to hear what you’ll be up to during our 30 Days of Imperfection–YAY!!!!

      Love,
      Jac
      xo

  8. I had a trainer many years ago who taught us to embrace adequacy. His view was that adequate means good enough, and good enough means it achieves its purpose. If what we are doing achieves our purpose, why are we not satisfied? For some reason our society looks down on “adequate” and “good enough” because they are not perfect, as if only perfect will do. But why? Its not necessary to excel in everything to achieve our purposes, in fact, it can be a barrier because each task takes longer than is warranted, or can’t be done at all. Embracing imperfection doesn’t mean the same thing as embracing inadequacy, it just giving yourself a bit of wiggle room to be creative. I am imperfect every day, and I quite enjoy it.

    1. I really, really like what you shared here Linda. Adequacy does get a bad rap, doesn’t it? There’s a lot of pressure to excel, especially online and because of this our inner critic can get triggered and make up so many untruths about how we’re actually doing. It’s that compare and despair routine.

      Our best measure is always in relation to ourselves. And the best question is “what do I want right now?”

      That’s why I “outed” the limiting story of my inner critic and am making a choice to let my creative—and adequate— writer shine through.

      Thanks for joining this convo!
      xoxo
      Jac

  9. I am guilty of this in many areas of my life, but it is most present in my blog. I hesitate to post because I try to make every post “perfect” with the best, brightest photos and the most fitting adjectives. Learning to let that go, one post at a time. Haha. Thanks for the inspiration.

  10. Janelle–I totally get it. I’m learning that I can’t talk myself into letting go, it’s more of an action thing for me–I have to write every day and share it. I can take out the scariness by doing it over and over and over. I hope you’ll join us in this adventure!
    xoxo
    Jac

  11. This challenge feels like it came straight from the Universe. I struggle daily with blogging. I have so many half written blogs that I don’t complete because they’re not perfect. I read other peoples work and become paralyzed, because I feel my words won’t be as beautiful or interesting or wise, but I keep hearing this voice telling me to share my story. I feel like my voice is stuck in my throat dying to escape. Funnily enough I just purchased the Artist’s Way to help me with just this problem. Looking forward to outing my inner critic and connecting to my wise self.

    1. Hi Anne,

      I am so honored to share this experience with you. Thank you for sharing your story here, you spoke straight to my heart.
      I too have the Artist’s Way—it’s been sitting on my shelf for 5 years and I haven’t read it. Thank you for reminding me that I have these supports and tools to help me on this journey.

      All my best to you–
      xo
      Jac

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